It’s been nearly 4 months of parenting 2 boys so I thought I’d share with you 7 things I’ve learnt….
Bullsh*t – it’s hard, it’s exhausting and anyone who says it’s easy has either forgotten how hard it is or is on a mission to keep the world population growing.
2 – every baby is different. When it’s your second you kind of assume you’ll know what you’re doing… But surprise surprise every baby is different and things that might have soothed your first-born might not work on your second-born…. You might have breastfed your first without a hitch but your second couldn’t latch on… Etc etc…
3 – leading on from the last point, you can’t help but compare them! It’s made me realise how rose-tinted my view was first time around as I’ve said ‘I’m sure W was sleeping through by now’ and then check old blog posts and realise he was far from it!
4 – you end up being a two-family-family! What I mean is quite often (every evening!) I’ll be looking after baby S while my OH looks after toddler W… Each child having a parent each!
5 – with the last point in mind, your levels of parental guilt literally double as you have your second…. Guilty for trying to split your time between the two and thus not giving either enough attention, guilty for leaving baby cry while you deal with the toddler etc
6 – everyone assumes you’re doing ok. With your first-born you get all these offers of help, food, babysitting etc. These seem harder to come by second time around, I think everyone assumes we know what we’re doing and we must be getting on fine but actually the help would be even more welcome this time around 🙂
7 – it’s totally ok to keep mixing up their names and calling them the wrong one… Every single day!
Have you got two (or more) children? If so how did you find the transition?! I’d love to hear from you!